Love for the Sake of Allah
Note: the Lectures are descended from latest to previous
AsSahib 13
29-4-2015
Brothers and sisters in Islam need each other . Sahib is closer
to you than a stranger . When you choose your Sahib think about the intellect .
Beauty of their akhlaq , don't choose a Fasiq. There is a boundary that Allah
(swt) sets and a person who breaks the rules becomes a Fasiq . Don't choose
those who innovate in the seen . Avoid those who are greedy . They can poison
you and you will be affected . Our capital in life is our mind .
Mind: when you choose a sahib look at the mind . Don't accompany
those fool, how many fool brought down.
Don't make your sahib except those who are believer, and only
believer should eat your food.
Sign of love of Allah (swt):
Happy for their good character
Love ones regardless
They have mutual understanding
When you see them your love increases
Hadith: On the authority of Abu Umamah (radiallahu ‘anhu) that the Messenger of Allah
(salalaahu ‘alayhi wa salam)
said: Man Ahabah lillaah Wa Abghada lillaah Wa A’ta lillaah Wa Mana’ah
lillaah Fa Qad Istakmal Al-Eman (Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for
the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and prevents (withholds) for
the sake of Allah, has perfected Eman.) [Abu Dawud (no. 4681), at-Tirmidhee
(no. 2521), Ahmad (3/438, 440); ‘Saheeh’ due to
witnesses, refer to al-Albaani’s Al-Saheeh
(no. 380)]
If someone keep remind you of Allah (swt), know that they love
you more than anyone else.
Sometimes you take a person because they attract you cause of
their look, fame.
Too much socializing kills the heart, the time is very important,
times goes and you can't bring it back. Dunya is temporary.
When you love someone for any other reason that the sake of Allah
(swt), then it's surely for any other interest. But when you love for the sake
of Allah (swt), you will get everything.
When you see with the good sahib you will have the good smell.
Fruits of righteous gathering:
Mali’s of remembrance , the pious will not stop the shirk ,
They will advice you if they see a fault in you , they are like
date tree , always beneficial , it's fruits , when it is old , young , are
always beneficial .
You learn from them the importance of time because in the Day of Judgment
you will be with those you loved each other for the sake of Allah (swt) . Those
who will enter paradise will ask about their Ashaab (Imaam Malik said : if you see someone defend
you and using bad language then he has disease
didn't hear it)
When Abu Bakr AsSiddiq (ra) was abused by a man in the company of
Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) then he replied and Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) left him and later
Abu Bakr AsSiddiq (ra) asked Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) why did you leave . And he
said when you were silent then Allah (swt) assigned an angel to defend you but
as soon as you replied the Angel left and the Shaytan came . If you control
your anger today Allah (swt) will reward you in the Day of Judgment , because
Allah (swt) is AsShaakur.
The best of the Muslim is the one you are safe with your hand and
tongue .
AsSahib 12
7-5-2015
We have two types of Jalees, the one you sit with and gather with
. Jalees salih is the good one . Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) said the good companion.
Khalil is the one who is close to our mind and heart, Khalil
knows everything about you . The deen of your companions is yours , the good
companion will praise you and not exaggerate . They will praise you to
encourage you .
Every one loves Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى)
but the achievement is if Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى)
loves you and his mercy comes on you .
By being with good companions is an asset , they always beneficial like
the date tree . All friends will be enemy in the Day of Judgment except the
pious .
The evil companion , the Jalees can be your phones , Facebook ,
and so on . The bad companion has an
effect on one AQIDAH . In Surah Al Munafiqoon Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) mentioned about their speech , how eloquent they are . We
shouldn't leave the gathering of study .
Human being has a nature of getting reflection , when you love
someone you like to look like them or imitate them , the bad companion is
always regret , you will never feel good with them . There is always comparison
, competition , and jealousy ...
Surah Al Kahf : 28
They forgot Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) ,
and follow their desires .
فاقبل
بعضهم علي بعض يتسألون 50
Evil companion will never tells you your faults , someone who is
bad wants others to be like them .
During almost two years we have been through this beautiful
journey :
How to grow the love of Allah (سبحان الله) and how
to gain love of Allah (سبحان الله) .
Ibn Qayyim
The bad women gave water to a dog end Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) forgave her .
AsSahib 11
21-4-2015
Recap :
Last classes we have mentioned about the right of the right of
the Muslims over His brothers.
Prophet Mohammed ( pbuh) once asked where was the Laban was from as a gift? then asked Abu Huraira (ra) go call As'haab AsSufaa (who were those poor who lived in the masjid annabawi and seeked ilm). She said, it came from a gift from so and so. Abu Mutalib families are not
allowed to take from the sadaqa. So they will send it to As'haab sufaa... One
day came with the food as Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) had so much baraka , he was able
to feed all . He also had miracle .
Aisha(ra) said She has never been jealous from any women except
KHADIJA . She was always honest . Whenever the food was coming to the house of the prophet Mohammed (صلى الله عليه و سلم), he kept always one portion for her friends
and family . He was a generous and always sharing.
Gift and gain the love, if you remember your friend loves a
coconut water just get for them and offer them and they will be happy. And the prophet Mohammed (صلى الله عليه و سلم)
will also accept the gift if its valueless .
Salam Al Farsi (ra),tested the prophet Mohammed (صلى
الله عليه و سلم) when he found
out that he was in MADINAH by giving him a bag of dates and said it is sadaqa
then the prophet Mohammed
(صلى الله عليه و سلم) distributed to all the poor and Salam Al
Farsi (ra)said I notice you didn't take the sadaqa . He was siting with the prophet Mohammed (صلى
الله عليه و سلم) trying to find
out the mark on the shoulder . Then when he saw he hugged the prophet Mohammed (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and gave the shahada ..
Queen Balqees gave Sulaiman (as) a gift while he refused as
Allah giving him better because of his Duaa to Allah .some people who are in
position shouldn't touch gift .
Bani Hashim family are not allowed to take sadaqa , because they
were supposed to get money from baitul-Maal .
Return a gift with a gift , appreciate and thanks , give them
reward , praise it . Some people don’t appreciate . If you have nothing to
return at least make dua . It increases mutual love.
Benefits for brotherhood for Allah (swt) 'sake :
• Love
of Allah (swt) will oblige on them
A person visited his brother in another town and Allah
deputed an Angel to wait for him on his way and when he came to him he said:
Where do you intend to go? He said: I intend to go to my brother in this town.
He said: Have you done any favour to him (the repayment of which you intend to
get)? He said: No, accepting this that I love for the sake of Allah, the
Exalted and Glorious. Thereupon he said: I am a Messenger to you from, Allah:
(to inform you) that Allah loves you as you love him (for His sake). Sahih
Muslim 2567 Book 45, Hadith 47
Who's getting the love of Allah (swt) ?
When two people love each other the one who loves more is the one
who loves Allah more .
The best of people are those who benefits others , for example
someone come to you for advice , then you help them as much as you can . A good
Muslim will not wait to be asked but he will help automatically , that is
brotherhood for the sake of Allah .Whoever love for the sake of Allah , and
hate for the sake of Allah ,give for Allah and withhold for the sake of Allah
then he has completed the faith .Those who meet for the sake of Allah and also
separate for the sake of Allah .
Everyday our grave calling us , time of a Prophets is over ,
revelation is over . What are we waiting for ? We should all prepare for the
hereafter .
If you can't benefit anyone then least you can do is not to harm him or her....that's a sadaqah a charity and ihsan......
AsSahib 10
Reply to a Walimah :
The person must have privately invited you
If the party has any
Munkaar then you must not go
Adaab to enter somebody house :
If you knock three times and no one answers; leave as its purification for you
If you knock and you are asked who is it ? Give your exact clear name.
We have to understand who are our Maharams!
Your closest Mahram is your husband
Parents , husband father , your son , son of the husband ,
brothers , your nephews from brother and sisters , women ( the Ulemah differs,
some said only the believers , some said even non-believers but those you trust
, the slave men your right hand possess) .
You can avoid the party if there is Munkaar or unable to attend for some reasons or if it's non believer inviting.
Conditions to accept a invitation by Sh. Bin Uthaimeen
No Munkaar unless you will go to change
The person who invited you is not known as bad
You going to Muslim
The food should be halal
If it's harmful
You are invited
Hassan Al Basree said : Make a lot of good believers friends .
Rulings of answering Walimah :
You will answer either the first who called or the closest to you ,
If you are fasting fard replacement you can't break for a Walimah
If you are fasting Nafl and the person is dear to you then you can
break
One Walimah is sufficient, be careful from riya'a, if you leave
haram for Allah (swt), He will give Barakah, refrain from imitating the non
Muslims.
When we enter a Majlis you must greet with the Salam, never sit in
the street ,and if you have to then lower the gaze , don't hurt anyone , if you
advise do so , don't sit in a way that show your Awrah , choose the right
people , don't sit between two people without permission. Never sit in a majlis without remembering Allah (swt) ,
protect your eyes and mouth from any bad. Control your tongue from evil. Don't whisper
to other when you are in three. If someone ask you space in the majlis make
space for them so Allah (swt) will make accommodate you , lower your voice as
Allah (swt) said the most ugly sound is the donkey voice . Do not waste time .
Leave any Majlis which do not honor the Deen , such as mocking at the quraan or Sunnah .
Do not forget to recite the kaffaratul Majlis at the end of any majlis
Imam Shafe'e said : My heart is at ease knowing what is meant for me will never miss me and that what misses me was never meant me .
Sneezing is a blessing from Allah (swt) , unlike yawning , yawning is form Shaytan .
Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) said : if someone sneezes ,praise Allah (swt) and thanks Him , it's the right of this person and the person who have heard must reply them .
Question : what is this person is a non Muslim ?
Say Yahdikumullah wa yusli balakum may Allah (swt) guide u ...
If you are a Majlis and one sneezes : each one who hears should reply .
When you say elhamdellah you are doing Tawheed , you are my Lord and creator , your Owner
You are doing Tawheed Al uloohiyah : you are the one I worship , for everything you are remembering Allah (swt) . Around us people will be affected so we also have to follow the Adab .
Al : All thanks is only for you Ya Allah .
For the one who doesn't say elhamdellah when he sneezes then remind them.
Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) said just write exactly what he said I will give him the rewards ...
Cover your face : When you sneeze it's very power, your eyes could pop up , your heart could stop, your organs stop working . Allah (swt) made everything goes in a smooth way .
In a hadith Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) said : Your mouth should be covered while sneezing .
If your scale us not heavy it will complete your scale when you say elhamdellah .
Best people in the Day of Judgement are those thanks Allah (swt) a lot .
Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) and ESSA name is Ahmad , Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) name is perfect . Allah (swt) name are all perfect and Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) name is suiting him . Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) Barner will be Al hamd , he will be the first to enter paradise .
When the servant say elhamdellah , Allah (swt) tells the angels to make an house for the person in JANNAH . This is the best supplication .
Allah (swt) praising Himself , we have many Surah with elhamdellah , elhamdellah He has no Sharik , elhamdellah for all his action , his attributes . If He is doing to Himself how about us . Allah (swt) loves the praise . And if no one does He does it to Himself .
Yawning is from Shaytan , the Sahabah (ra) said Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) never yawn in his life . سبحان الله the Sunnah when we yawn is to avoid it . Shaytan goes in your mouth when you yawn . Yawning is also contagious , if you sitting near someone you might also yawn . Specially in prayer avoid it . As much as you can don't yawn . If you couldn't find it then as much as you can stop it with your hand so Shaytan doesn't enter .
We avoid doing any Dua as none of Sahabah (ra) or Prophet Muhammad(ﷺ) did it .
25-2-2015
Be careful of the time before you visit , when you visit them say
: لا باس طهور ان شاء الله
. Allah (swt) didn't forget
you , whatever happen is form Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) . Remeber to Get the sick a gift . That will give
them happiness . Have patience as well , sometimes they might get angry and shout
,it's not their mistakes but the situation they are being through. You have to be really
patient as they are very delicate .
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said visiting a sick person is like a garden of paradise .
Form the time he left his house and have the intention till they reach and
return , it's as if they are in garden of paradise . And 70.000 Angels are
sending the Salawaat upon that person . Similarly if they visit in the noon till
the morning they get the Salawaat from the Angels
It's recommended for you to do Ruqya for them and not let them
asking you .
You are very near to Allah (swt) when you visit a sick person ,
when you visit a sick you are taking lesson and your heart become softer and
tender you become closer to Allah (swt) and you start to see all the blessings
of Allah (swt) .
For those who doesn't visit on the Day of Judgement Allah (swt)
will say I was sick and you didn't visit me and they will ask . How come I
didn't visit you then Allah (swt) will say this person was sick and you
haven't visited him . If you had visited him you would have find me there .
The best things you can do when you visit a sick , give them
confidence .
Say the Dua لا
بأس طهور ان شاء الله .
When you want to advise , and someone comes defensive then close
the door , do not insist.
Every morning Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) will ask , how was your night and
entertaining the sick . Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) will ask who from you are. Fasting ,
visit for janaza, give food to Miskeen ,
who gave charity ... Then who visited a sick ..he said :me for each question ,
then it's guaranty JANNAH .
See Ayoob(as) never complained , he was rich and healthy , with
so many children , suddenly everything went from him , to the extreme he has do
much disease on his body and people used to run away from him . And only his wives was
with him and complaining . Ayoob(as) said how many years you have lived without
again complained year she said 40 years .. And how years you appreciate she
said 4 ....
When Yaqoob (a)lost his son Yusuf (as) he never complained he
said also Fassabrun Jameel and I will complain my sorrow to Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى)
.
There are many dua that you can read for the sick, see Husnl Muslim book.
Allah (swt) is Ash Shaafi (The healer ) but you have to take the
means and rely on Allah (swt) .
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) will not visit the sick the same day he will wait three days
before visiting . The sick also have their own timing .
Remember Tough times don't last , tough people do
Adaab when visiting the sick :
- Fasting
- Visit for janaza
- Visiting the sick
Your Niyah is very important , only If you had the Niyah and were
able to see them you still get the Ajr.you have to knock the door , that's why
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said teach your women Surah Noor.
Don't be a heavy visitor , light in their heart , how ? Sit with
them , have good talk , and make them feel to have you another time . Some
people have commitment and they won't be able to tell you to leave , so know
yourself and don't embarrass .
You shouldn't not engage in funny talk and party whole people are
in funerals , Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said when you visit a sick person say good and the Angels say
Ameen to whatever you say .
Never make Dua asking for disease , ask Allah (swt) the wellbeing
, ask for Eman , Taqwah and closeness to Allah (swt) . Make good Dua . When you are visiting
someone for the sake of Allah (swt) ... You getting so much Dua .
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) taught us that doing Sadaqah remove he disease and Shifaa in
the hand of Allah (swt) .
Before you sleep , forgive everyone and be kind to everybody .
There was a Sahabi (ra)who came and Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام) said this
man will go paradise . Then the other Sahaba(ra) who witness was curious to see
what that Sahabah (ra) does to deserve paradise . So he went to his house and
observed him and he couldn't see anything . And he told him actually i didn't
see anything you do but Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) told me you will enter paradise so I
wanted to know . The man said may be because before I sleep I forgive everybody
.
May Allah make us among those who forgives everybody . Amen
16-2-2015
Recap :
• It's
Waajib to reply Salam, but Sunnah to initiate .
• When
some are sleeping and others awake , do not greet loudly
• You
also have to greet anyone regardless you know them or not , it's Haqq on each
other.
• Younger
greet the elder but Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلم) manners was such
he would initiate with the children .
• Replying
Greeting with gestures such as the wave of a hand while praying
• It
is disliked to greet while you are using the bathroom
• It's
recommended to imitative greeting while entering the house , first say
Bismillah ,
• If
someone tells you to convey his SALAM , it's recommended for you to convey
• When
you enter the Masjid , first pray the two Rakkah then greet others
• It's
dislike to greet during the Friday khutbah
• Extending
the Salam of peace upon meeting someone , when a hall and trees separate you
from Salam , renew the Salam
• Extending
Salam when parting from a gathering
Hadith : when two Muslims meets and shakes hands . Allah (swt)
forgives their sins.
Visiting the sick :
Mohammed (صلى الله عليه و سلم) never left one
occasion to visit the sick ( MUSLIMS or non MUSLIMS ).
• Nabi Mohammed (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said when a MUSLIMS visit his brothers
and sister in Islam . It's as if you are walking in the garden if paradise .
• The
sick person dives in the mercy , and when you are visiting it's as if you are
diving in the mercy of Allah (swt) .
• The
Angels making Dua for you , Istighfar for you and may you enter JANNAH .
• Allah
(swt) will say in Day of Judgement , I was sick yaa Fulaan and you didn't visit
me m and the person will say how were you sick and I didn't visit you . Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) will say my servant was sick and you
didn't visit them? Didn't you know if you visit that person , you will find me
there !? Allah (swt) is not physically there but Allah (swt) is Adheem .
• Any
MUSLIMS after salat Fajr and shuroq , 7000 angels pray for you and do Istighfar
just because you visit a sick person . If one visits the sick during the day he
gets till the evening supplication from the Angels and if he visits in the
evening till morning he gets supplications form the Angels .
Time should be very important , when one
is sick you don't wait anyone to tell you to read for you but you just read for
people , read Surah FATIHA 7 times , no the Surah starting Qul ... Mawdhatin
... Don't remember the dying person of scaring things , encourage them gently .
Remind them of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى). And they will be
guided .
Your dawah is action not only taking the
paper and reading ...
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلم)
will take any situation to visit the sick , and encourage to say the shahaddah.
- Be careful of the time before you visit , when you visit them say : لا بأس طهورإن شاء الله . Allah (swt) didn't forget you , whatever happen is form Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) .
- Get the sick a gift . That will give them happiness .
- Have patience as well , sometimes they my angry and shout ,it's not their mistakes but the situation they through. You have to be really patient as they are very delicate .
AsSahib 6
Adam of Salam
4-Febuary-2015
One
Saliheen said: Sometimes you have good brother and sisters, Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) make you separate from each others,
sometimes Allah (swt) separate you because of e sins one of you is making. It's
like a gift Allah (swt) give you. The main is Allah (swt), and He is the one
who grant you.
Bishr said:
if the slave disobeys Allah (swt), Allah (swt) will take from you one thing
that make you happy with people.
One said:
it's the best things to seat with brother in Islam. Ikhwaan are very sincere to
each other. Once an old lady came and Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) was very happy and he
didn't know how to host her and whatever he has he gave her. When she left they
ask who was this women. He said this lady used to come our house when I was
with KHADIDJA (Ra) .
The real
companion when his position become higher he doesn't make you feel he is higher
than you . When you accompany someone you have to be selective . Think its
investment for Akhira . Either they push you for Akhira or Dunya, just be careful.
Right
of Ukhuwa fi'llah:
Salam
If they
are sick you visit them
If they
sneeze you reply
Reminder
each other of Allah (swt)
Give
gift to gain each other love
Small
reminder
Good
words are also gift to make one happy
Sometimes
expensive things will make them feel oblige
Abdullah
bin Salam was a Jews, one of the Ulamah (top). How he came to Islam.
He said
when Nabil (pub) came to MADINAH I saw his face; from his pleasant face he
couldn't be a bad person. He said when I saw him something affected me and the
first things he heard was yaa ayyuha annaas:
يا
أيها الناس الشوا السلام وأطعموا الطعام و صلوا الأرحام و صلو بالليل والنَّاس
نيام تدخلوا الجنة بسلام
Spread Salam.
Our Deen
is Salam.
Give food.
Don't store the food, don't think it will finish, give away to your neighbor.
Connect
with your kin, father and mother family. You can't reach them phone them, of
you can't phone hem do Dua for them, pray in the night when people are sleeping
If you
do all that you will enter paradise with Salam.
Adab
of Salam:
The
younger initiate the Salam to the elder
The
pedestrian initiate the salam to the sitting person
The
smaller group will initiate the Salam to the bigger group
The one
in the automobile initiate the Salam to the one without automobile
What is AsSalam?
It's the
name of Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى)
It's
means peace
It means
AsSalam is perfection, cure,
السلام عليكم ورحمة و بركاته is as if you say Allah (swt)
make of you
May all
the khair and afiaa come to you
And
Allah (swt) says in the Quran in Surah Al An'aam 54:
وَإِذَا جَاءَكَ الَّذِينَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِآيَاتِنَا
فَقُلْ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُمْ كَتَبَ رَبُّكُمْ عَلَىٰ نَفْسِهِ الرَّحْمَةَ أَنَّهُ
مَنْ عَمِلَ مِنكُمْ سُوءًا بِجَهَالَةٍ ثُمَّ تَابَ مِن بَعْدِهِ وَأَصْلَحَ
فَأَنَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
And when
those who believe in Our communications come to you, say: Peace be on you, your
Lord has ordained mercy on Himself, (so) that if any one of you does evil in
ignorance, then turns after that and acts aright, then He is Forgiving,
Merciful.
When a
person commits a sin at that time they are Jahil. After that they repent. If
you want to do Taw bah. You have to go to the root and need movement and really
show Allah (swt) you are determined. Then Allah (swt) says he's The Forgiving.
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said in a hadith: Two
Muslims meet each other, the one who greet with more affection is the one who
love more for Allah's sake. Until they are holding each other hand the sins falling
down.
Aa'raf
is in between paradise and hellfire. The people standing there are half face
beautiful and half ugly. They know each one with their faces. They have the
wish to go JANNAH .
وَبَيْنَهُمَا
حِجَابٌ وَعَلَى الْأَعْرَافِ رِجَالٌ يَعْرِفُونَ كُلًّا بِسِيمَاهُمْ وَنَادَوْا
أَصْحَابَ الْجَنَّةِ أَن سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُمْ لَمْ يَدْخُلُوهَا وَهُمْ
يَطْمَعُونَ
And
between the two there shall be a veil, and on the most elevated places there
shall be men who know all by their marks, and they shall call out to the
dwellers of the garden: Peace be on you; they shall not have yet entered it,
though they hope.
Another
hadith is that Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام)
said: if one person meets their brother and something comes between them, wall,
trees, if they come again greet them.
When you
say السلام عليكم ورحمة و بركاته it's Sunnah and replying the
السلام عليكم ورحمة و بركاته is fard.
If you
are in a group one can reply but if no one reply the whole group take the sins.
A Jews
said to Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام)
Asalaam alaikm and Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام)
reply wa'alaykm, Aisha (ra) got angry.
And Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام)
told her he has replied wa'alaykm for whatever was said.
Sometimes
your Akhlaq is what make the dawah. After burring king Abdullah 500 persons
entered Islam in China .wa Allahu a’alam.
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said: you will not enter
paradise until you believe, you will not have a believe until you have love for
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) , Sahaba (ra). Shall I
guide you to something that you will be loved ? ... Spread the Salam
Lying is
haram in Islam, but when you want to do Islaah between two people doesn't talk
to each other , Muslim feel For each other . You can tell your wife good things
even if you don't believe what you say ...and during war .
They
asked Nabi (صلى
الله عليه و سلام)
which Islam is the best He said : ... Spread Salam .
Before
you leave each other Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) will forgive the sins .
Things
to be avoided :
Don't say:
Alayka Salam , it's for the dead people .
Don't
greet during answering the call of nature .
Don't
bow as its for taa’dheem Allah (swt) .
May
Allah (swt) make us among those who spread the Salam .
AsSahib 5
Brotherhood
in Islam
28th January 2015
What are the signs that
we can see in our brothers and sisters that display their love for the sake of
Allaah for us?
Their character, no condition
in the relationship, doing good deeds, same interests, nothing worldly in our
relationship, it hurts when you see this person doing wrong, you crave to see
that person again, truthful for that person, you are yourself and do not hide
anything of you when with this person.
You never envy that
person. You will always want good for that person. It is a mirror relationship.
When you see this type
of person you feel you want to do more khair. They are encouraging you. You are
feeling less faith when far from them.
Hadith:
Handala Usayyidi, who was amongst
the scribes of Allah's Messenger (saw). reported:
I met Abu
Bakr. He said: Who are you? He (Handala) said: Handala has turned to be a
hypocrite. He (Abu Bakr) said: Hallowed be Allah, what are you saying?
Thereupon he said: I say that when we are in the company of Allah's Messenger (saw)
we ponder over Hell-Fire and Paradise as if we are seeing them with our very
eyes and when we are away from Allah's Messenger (saw) we attend to our wives,
our children, our business; most of these things (pertaining to After-life)
slip out of our minds. Abu Bakr said: By Allah, I also experience the same. So Abu
Bakr and I went to Allah's Messenger (saw) and said to him: Allah's Messenger, Handala
has turned to be a hypocrite. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (saw) said: What has
happened to you? I said: Allah's Messenger, when we are in your company, we are
reminded of Hell-Fire and Paradise as if we are seeing them with our own eyes,
but whenever we go away from you and attend to our wives, children and
business, much of these things go out of our minds. Thereupon Allah's Messenger
(saw) said: By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if your state of mind remains the
same as it is in my presence and you are always busy in remembrance (of Allah),
the Angels will shake hands with you in your beds and in your paths but, Handala,
time should be devoted (to the worldly affairs) and time (should be devoted to
prayer and meditation). He (the Holy Prophet) said this thrice. [Sahih Muslim]
Lessons: The faith is not
always at its highest. Handala and Abu Bakr also thought they were hypocrites
when they felt their faith fluctuating. The company of righteous is a mean of
increasing in faith. We need to protect our faith so much.
Those friends for
Allaah are the fuel you need for your faith to be lightening up.
When you love for
Allaah, you mingle with them and you feel everything they say is good. Even when
in bad times, you support them.
Disease of the heart: Self-Liking
Shaytan has promised to
sit on the straight path. He can work on our heart in the form of self-liking.
The self-liking is
leading to pride (Kibr) and it is a chronic disease that needs to be cured.
As we know, one atom of
pride and the person cannot reach paradise.
What is Kibr? : Denying
the truth and seeing people low.
Hadith:
"The
Messenger of Allah said: 'Whoever has a speck of pride (arrogance) in his
heart, shall not be admitted into Paradise. And whoever has a speck of faith in
his heart, shall not be admitted in to the Fire.'" Ha said: "So a man
said to him: 'I like for my clothes to be nice, and my sandals to be nice?' So
he said: 'Indeed Allah loves beauty. But pride is refusing the truth and belittling
the people.'" [Tirmidhi]
Imam Al-Uthaymeen (rahimahu
Allah) said: “Kibr is like a cancer if we do not cure it will spread.” It
becomes a habit. We have to be careful about this.
What can lead to kibr/ self liking?
Lots of Ibadah: example
of the men from Bani Israel who worshiped so much for 500 years and he will ask
Allaah to enter him in Jannah because of his worship not because of Allaah’s
Mercy. He was proud of his worship.
Lot of wealth: sadaqah
will never make our money less. Immediately Allaah will replace it with better.
There will be barakah in it. Forgiving others will not humiliate but it will
raise.
We need to be careful
of our walk to not look arrogant. And Allaah knows our intention.
Hadith:
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased
with him) reported:
Messenger of Allah (saw) said,
"While a man was walking, dressed in clothes admiring himself, his hair
combed, walking haughtily when Allah caused the earth to swallow him. Now he
will continue to go down in it (as a punishment) until the Day of
Resurrection."
How to stay humble?
To remember all the
blessings of Allaah are a test for me so I should keep persistent.
People are sometimes arrogant because of their
worship:
1. For example, they want everything so
perfect that when they go to prayer they will start 6 times at least! Shaytan
gives waswas and the person will not feel perfect ever.
2. For example, they will do so much volunteer
deeds, they will do all the nawaafil but they neglect the fard. They go into
wrong praying tahajjud and sleep over Fajr.
3. For example, reciting the Qur’an. They will
read one Qur’an a week! They read without knowing and say that they read the
Qu’ran so much. They will finish 20
times in Ramadhan.
4. For example, every year they go to Hajj but
they have so many loans from people and do not give back their rights.
5. For example, they want people to see them
poor with the same clothes. They will look so cheap only for people to say they
are so humble. We need to wear the blessings from Allaah. We do not need to
bring credit to ourselves; we need to show to Allaah.
6. For example, they exaggerate the halal.
They exaggerate doing halal things. They waste their time in these activities.
People are sometimes arrogant because of their wealth:
1. Number one in Khair and they never hide
their deeds, sadaqah.
2. Building all the schools, orphan places,
masjids but their name should be written.
3. They are extremely generous or extremely
greedy. They give their zakah to rent people, making them feel low.
4. They do good deeds for their name to be
mentioned.
People are sometimes arrogant because of their
learning the deen:
1. They are always in Majlis of knowledge for
the generosity of the people and not for the knowledge.
Quote from Ibn Qayyim:
1. When we are tested: Be
patient
2. When receiving a
blessing: Be grateful
3. When you sin: Repent
Quote: “Happiness cannot be achieved by snatching
it from others.”
Reflection: Seek
happiness from Allaah not from people.
Ibn Jawzy: You will not
fulfil the right of friendship until he is calling you me.
According to an
analysis, a human being has around 60 000 ideas per day and 80% of them are
negative. This negativity leads to diseases.
Always be optimistic,
think good.
How to stay optimistic?
·
Remembering Allaah
·
Forgiving People
·
Giving Charity
·
Living and giving a lot for others
·
Purifying our heart, filling it with Eman
·
Asking Allaah to forgive our sins, Repent
all the time to clean your heart
·
Being humble and content with what we have
·
Make dua’, we have nothing in our hands so
we ask Allaah to guide us, protect us…
“Remember to always purify
your heart”
AsSahib 4
Choosing good friend
Did you know that's your friend can be
your way to paradise.
So how dome choose our good friends?
Check for this 3 qualities.
1- If you see them they will remind you
of Allah
Special family of Allah (SWT) they are
people of the Quran.
2-Their way of life will guide you to the
oath of Allah
Wherever they might be you benefit from them,
their way of life will guide you to Akhira. Unlike the people of Dunya.
3-Their speech will increase your Eman
They might influence you in their talk
and so.
Types of love:
Two types of love will not cause you
sadness
Love for Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) and your love for the sake of Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) .
Rights of the brotherhood
Spread Islam
Visiting sick
Reply Salam
Invitation
Oppressed
Help them
Reply Sneeze
Love Purely for Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى)
Link with Eman and Taqwa
Forgiving for Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) sake
Helping each other
In good and difficult TIME
Under the law of Islam
Ahmad Bin Harth said I have worshipped
Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى), till
I left pleasing people, Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) grant me power to say the truth.
I left companionship of Fasiqeen, Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) give me pious companionship
I felt the sweetness of Dunya; I felt the
sweetness of Akhira.
Imam Shaafi said: Pleasing people is a
goal you will never attain.
Eman has taste:
•
They taste the sweetness of Eman
•
They will be forever with Rahman and Sakina
•
They will get the security and happiness
•
They feel the love of Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) and His Messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلام)
•
And they have the taste of that love in their
heart
Love of Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) is Sign of TAWFEEQ success in Dunya and Akhira.
Who has the Akhlaq and Adaab they will
live in people's heart forever.
Another benefits of companionship for the
sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى).
Increase of the level of paradise in
Akhira
Glad tiding
Always your behavior will be good with
them
Price you get with them is paradise
You will be with prophets, messengers and
martyrs ...as mentioned in the Surah.
Love someone because of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى), Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى)
will make it last forever.
Leave someone for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى); Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى)
will give you so, some much better. Whatever is for Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) will continue. Whatever is not for Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) sake won't last .One of the seven who will be under shade
of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) is one loving for the
of Allah (swt).
Benefits for the love of Allah (swt):
No fear, tranquility
Allah (swt) love Day of Resurrection you
will increase
You will taste of Eman
Fruits of companionship for the sake
of Allah (swt):
•
Whether you are with them or no they always be with
you, they protect you and your property and reputation, sincere with you.
•
Hear badly of a sister in Islam and defend them,
Allah (swt) will save their face in hellfire In Day of Judgment.
•
A caller for the love of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) they put seeds in people heart so they get
fruits in the Akhira.
•
Always good intention, when you meet each other
there is happiness, you will try to perfect your actions, your fear increase.
•
Respect of Quran and Sunnah increase
•
When you love anyone for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) your Tawheed gets stronger. They
attachment to people become less and to Allah (سبحان
الله وتعالى) becomes more.
•
They help you financially, stronger together
that why we say إياك نعبد (we)
shows unity.
AsSahib 3
Love of Allah Series – Masjid Bani Hashim
Love between the people
§
Surah
Al Hujurat 10: (إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَ
أَخَوَيۡكُمۡۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُرۡحَمُونَ) (The believers are nothing else than
brothers (in Islâmic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers,
and fear Allâh, that you may receive mercy.)
§
What is
common between those that love for the sake of Allah (swt)? It is the faith in
Allah (swt) and the following of the Sunnah. They love what Allah (swt) loves
and they hate what Allah (swt) hates.
§
This
person will never prefer their parents, spouses, children, etc over Allah
(swt), anything else comes under the love of Allah (swt).
§
It is
not about having many friends, but good friends – it is quality not quantity.
The mutaqeen will be united together in the akhira, and there will be no fear or
sadness for them.
§
There
are people who brighten you and there are people who darken and demoralize you,
subhan Allah.
Hadiths about Brotherhood
§
Hadith: (ألا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِرِجَالِكُمْ مَنْ أهلُ الجنةِ ؟ النبيُّ في الجنةِ ، و الصديقُ
في الجنةِ ، و الشهيَدُ في الجنةِ ، و المولَوْدُ في الجنةِ ، و الرجلُ يزورُ أخاهُ
في ناحيةِ المِصْرِ لا يزورُهُ إلَّا للهِ عزَّ وجلَّ) - الراوي:عبدالله بن عباسالمحدث:الألباني - المصدر:السلسلة
الصحيحة- الصفحة أو الرقم:287
§
The
sidiqeen are immediately after the messengers – their life is truth, their
inside is truth, their outside is truth – this person is written with Allah
(swt) as sidiq – everyone in the heavens will know them as siddiq and people on
earth will know them as sidiq, subhan Allah. Like Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra),
Aisha (ra), Maryam bint Al Imran. Those who visit others only for the sake of
Allah (swt).
§
Hadith: (وعن أنس رضي الله عنه أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "لا تباغضوا،
ولا تحاسدوا ولا تدابروا، ولا تقاطعوا، وكونوا عباد الله إخوانًا، ولا يحل لمسلم أن
يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث") (Anas
bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Do not harbour grudge against
one another, nor jealousy, nor enmity; and do not show your backs to one
another; and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful
for a Muslim to avoid speaking with his brother beyond three days.") – Al
Bukhari and Muslim Book 18, Hadith 1567
§
Cutting
each other for more than three days is not allowed, unless there is a
legislative reason (سبب شرعي). There are people who try to attract
others by saying this other person is so and so, they are not good, etc – this
is done in professions, etc.
§
Hadith: (اذا عاد الرجل أخاه المسلم مسي في خرافة الجنة حتى يجلس فإذا حلس غمرته الرحمة) - الراوي:علي بن أبي طالبالمحدث:الألباني - المصدر:صحيح
الجامع- الصفحة أو الرقم:5934
§
When
you are going to the study circles, they are encircled with angels and Allah
(swt) will forgive all of those who are present. The angels will say but so and
so only came by, Allah (swt) will still forgive them, He is Al Kareem, subhan
Allah.
§
Hadith: (عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ
صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:
" إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ
وَجَلَّ يَقُولُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ: يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ، مَرِضْتُ فَلَمْ تَعُدْنِي(1)
قَالَ: يَا رَبِّ كَيْفَ أَعُودُكَ وَأَنْتَ رَبُّ الْعَالَمِينَ؟ قَالَ: أَمَا عَلِمْتَ
أَنَّ عَبْدِي فُلَانًا مَرِضَ فَلَمْ تَعُدْهُ؟ أَمَا عَلِمْتَ أَنَّكَ لَوْ عُدْتَهُ
لَوَجَدْتَنِي عِنْدَهُ.) (On
the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that
the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: Allah (mighty and sublime be He) will say on the Day of
Resurrection: O son of Adam, I fell ill and you visited Me not. He will say: O
Lord, and how should I visit You when You are the Lord of the worlds? He will
say: Did you not know that My servant So-and-so had fallen ill and you visited
him not? Did you not know that had you visited him you would have found Me with
him?) – Hadith An Nawwawi #18
§
It does
not mean that Allah (swt) is physically present, but by His Knowledge and Love.
§
Hadith: (عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ
تُصَاحِبْ إِلاَّ مُؤْمِنًا وَلاَ يَأْكُلْ طَعَامَكَ إِلاَّ تَقِيٌّ " .) (Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: The Prophet
(ﷺ) said:
Associate only with a believer, and let only a God-fearing man eat your meals.)
- Sunan Abi Dawud 4832
Conditions to have this brotherhood for the sake of
Allah (swt)
§
That
it is sincere for the sake of Allah (swt), you should not want any worldly benefit from them – check your
intention. Imam Ash Shafi’ee said check your intention all the time, even after
you finish a deed.
§
It
should be linked with faith and taqwa. There were two friends that were together, but then one friend started
to be rude to the other. Then the other friend approached and asked him why are
you rude to me? He said there is nothing common between me and you. And this
shows you there must be faith and taqwa common between each other.
§
There
should be help, unity, supporting each other. The person should never feel that they are alone. Some people in a
high post are afraid to make friends because others will take advantage of
them, but friends for the sake of Allah (swt) will not say I used to do this
for you, etc.
§
It
should be according to the law of Islam, they would not do things together that would displease Allah (swt), it
should be to please Allah (swt). They do not go together to the wrong places,
eat wrong things, or gossip about people. The people who are mutaqeen do not
like to waste their time, and if anyone tries to waste their time, they keep
away from them. Time is our capital.
§
To
forgive each other for the sake of Allah (swt).
Brotherhood for the sake of Allah (swt)
§
People
who love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) should never feel bad when he
is being advised by his friend. But if the person is not taking it, then their
heart is not for the sake of Allah (swt).
§
If you
don’t have a good friend, you have Allah (swt).
§
The
good friend is better than being alone, and being alone is better than having a
bad companion because you are safer when you are alone.
§
When
children really love their parents, and they make their parents sad, they
cannot sleep, subhan Allah. So what about disobeying Allah (swt)? Subhan Allah.
§
The
relationship between the people for the sake of Allah (swt) is eternal. There
will be people in paradise who will search for their friends. For those in
paradise, when they remember someone and they are in paradise, their thrones
will be in front of each other, subhan Allah. But if they cannot find them,
then they are not paradise. They will ask Allah (swt) to forgive them, and if
they have one atom of faith, then they will be removed out of the hellfire
because of the intercession of that friend, subhan Allah.
§
Why
does envy and hatred appear? Because of love of the duniya. If you truly love
each other for the sake of Allah (swt), you will lift them up with you. At the
time of the Prophet (pbuh), the poor would ask for money not so that they can
buy worldly things but so they can give to charity, subhan Allah. So the
Prophet (pbuh) told them to do dhikr. Then the rich people saw this and asked
what are you doing? And knowledge should not be concealed, so they told them,
notice they are competing in deen. So even the rich started to do it, subhan
Allah.
§
Love
for the sake of Allah (swt) is one of the best investments you can do for your
akhira. Allah (swt) will ask, ‘where are those who were loving each other for
My sake?’ Now it is becoming a fad just to say it, but it should not be by
tongue, but by heart.
§
When there
is love for the sake of Allah (swt), then there is unity, if there is a fault
in one, the other conceals and supports.
§
When
picking a friend, you should have ‘high taste’ for the akhira. And when two
people are together, if you do not know the character of one, then you can
figure it out by the character of the other – they mirror each other. That’s
why it’s important to have good
companions because if there is something wrong done by one, it will be
reflected upon you, subhan Allah.
Rights of the Muslim
§
Say
salam to each other when meeting them
§
Visit them
if sick
§
If they
are wronged, then try to advise them, support them.
§
If they
are in hardship, then try to help them, or link them to someone that you know
can help them. It is the nature of the human being to remember ihsan when done
to him by people, but we forget the ihsan done to us by Allah (swt), subhan
Allah.
§
If they
sneeze, you must reply back – if no one says anything, then everyone is in
wrong.
§
To
visit each other
§
Give
gifts to each other
§
Wish
each other in eids
Loving each other for the sake of Allah (swt)
§
Hadith: (إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى يَقُولُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ: أَيْنَ الْمُتَحَابُّونَ
بجَلَالِي؟) (Allah will say on
the Day of Resurrection: Where are those who love one another through My glory?
Today I shall give them shade in My shade, it being a day when there is no
shade but My shade) An Nawwawi Hadith #23
§
A
person will be with the one he loves (المرء مع من أحب) – This
is great way of advising those who have been deviated, whom do you want to be
with? The prophets, the companions, etc.
§
Ahmed
bin Harb said I worshiped Allah (swt) for fifty years.
o
He said
I left pleasing people, and I got the pleasure of Allah (swt) by always
speaking the truth. There are those who want to please others by disobeying
Allah (swt), subhan Allah.
o
I left
the bad companions and I got the pious companions, subhan Allah. When your
heart changes, then your surroundings will change for sure.
o
I left
the sweetness of the duniya and Allah (swt) gave me the sweetness of the
akhira.
Benefits and fruits of loving each other for the
sake of Allah (swt)
§
You come
out with good feelings after meeting each other, you don’t have a feeling of
guilt, subhan Allah.
§
Your
life will become simpler, you don’t have to worry about pleasing each other.
§
You
become humble – the duniya doesn’t attract you.
§
You are
like-minded.
§
There
are no conditions between each other.
§
Your
love for Allah (swt) and the Prophet (pbuh) increases.
§
You
grow with each other, you become elevated with each other, you benefit each
other.
§
You
taste the faith with them.
§
When
you are sitting together, you will feel Allah’s mercy – your manners will be
calm and relaxed, unlike being stressed.
§
You
don’t keep record of what good you do for them or they for you.
§
You
feel secure with them – they will not break your heart, they are not
unpredictable. Unlike those whom if they haven’t seen you in month, they will
say something to you that will put you off the whole day.
§
If you
have friends for the sake of Allah (swt), then it is a sign of success.
May Allah (swt) gather our
hearts together in the duniya and akhira. Ameen.
Extra Notes AsSahib#3
Islam is what make them brothers and sisters .
We should sit with the beloved and sincere pious people benefiting from the most fruitful of their speech . We should not to speak unless speaking is ,or be beneficial and we know ...
They should have deep faith in Allah , Allah is what United them . Following the Sharia'a in Deen. They love what Allah love and hate what Allah hate . They would never prefer their parent or family or society or money or sister and the Sharia'a over Allah . Everything else will come under Allah .
الإخوة في الحديث
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) said Prophets are in Jannah, the Martyrs are in Jannah, AsSaddiq in Jannah, the one who are just after the Ambiyah. Ambiyah are the chosen by Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) . AsSaddiq is from truth they in and out are true . And entry and exit are true . This person is titled with Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) as AsSaddiq . Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلام) gave the glad tiding . Allan praised them as Maryam (as) . When baby born and die ,they are in Jannah.
Visiting for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) , nothing else combined them . They visited each other far from each other , different country but just visiting for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) . Don't cut for more than 3 days unless there is evil , don't cheat people , don't befriend non Muslims ,being close to them .
Majlis Ilm full of angels and Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) forgive his servant . The Angels tells Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) o Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) this person didn't come for you .
Hadith Qudsi:
Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) says : I was sick and you didn't visit me . And he will say how come you be sick . Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) says if you have visit Fulaan, I would have been there(not physically obviously) . By His love and knowledge .
Conditions of brotherhood:
Ikhlaas purely For Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) ,before and during and after the Deed. Eman and Taqwa. Help each other in goods , supporting each other without remembering the person the good the deeds for them . And helping even before they ask you . They won't do anything that displeased Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) . Anything they do is to please ArRabb.thry are Saliheen and Musliheen. Quality better than Quantity . If you get no good friend make Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) your best friend . AsSaliheen together are better than being alone but better to be alone than being in a evil gathering .
To gain happiness it's not complicated and difficult . And your will always be happy when you attach to Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) .
When you disobey Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) then you won't be happy and relax .
Brotherhood for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) I only in Islam .
In Akhira many will search for their friend who they won't find . And they will find out that those people are in hell fire thought in Dunya thry were all time together . O Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) forgive them . So then Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) will say take those who have little faith from hell fire.
They support each other , don't expose each Other,they don't waste time , every minutes counts .and you have satisfaction in Dunya and Akhira.
Select your Qareen, have a good taste . Not every should be so closed to you .
Bad friend and companions are contagious . Be afraid of bad companion as you afraid of disease .
If you see a person is Madhul,help them with advice . If they are in problem ,be source to help . Have heart to think about each other ...
Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) will give Shade to those who love each other for the sake of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) as mentioned in an authentic Hadith .
Ahmad Bin Harb said I never had sweet in my worship during 50 years till I,left three things
I left pleasure of people Day of Resurrection pleasure of Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) .
I left the bad companions Day of Resurrection the pious companions.
I left the sweetness of Dunya and Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) gave me the sweetness of Akhira .
Benefits of having good friends:
It's like a mirror to correct you ,become humble , No conditions ,your love for Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) increase . Polish and benefit from each other , encourage each other . They benefit you for Dunya and Akhira . You taste the faith with them .,you remember Allah (سبحان الله وتعالى) . They pull each other , you feel Allah(SWT) 's mercy and calmness . And your manner become better .
It's a sign of success .
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Key Points:
Love between the people
§ Surah Al Hujurat 10: (إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَ أَخَوَيۡكُمۡۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُرۡحَمُونَ) (The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islâmic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allâh, that you may receive mercy.)
§ There is a story of two brothers who loved each other for the sake of Allah (swt). There is a person who washes the dead, and he was once called for the ghusl. There was a person who knew the deceased, so the sheikh asked him, are you his brother? He said I am his brother in Islam. He asked each person to leave except for himself and the sheikh. Every time the sheikh would turn the dead body to wash it, the other man would cry, so the sheikh asked him why are you crying this much. He said this man was like my brother, we used to pray together, live in the same building, and travel together. Then the ghusl was completed, the body was taken to be prayed on, and he was buried after dhuhr, though it was peak heat at that time, the grave was actually cold, subhan Allah. This graveyard is actually very busy, and they are praying on at least 4 deceased after each prayer. Then the next day, another man was due for ghusl, and the sheikh said this face is familiar. And he was told it was the man from yesterday who was washing his friend. Then he asked his father how did he die? He said he wanted to sleep because he was tired, and died then. The graveyard is an extremely busy one, and qadr Allah, the grave that was assigned to him was exactly next to his friend, subhan Allah. And on the Day of Judgement, the mutaqeen will not be enemies of each other, whereas everyone else will be enemies.
§ Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra) and the Prophet (pbuh) were climbing to a cave, and then the feet of the Prophet (pbuh) started to bleed. So Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra) carried the Prophet (pbuh) until they reached the cave. And the Prophet (pbuh) was so tired he slept on the lap of Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra). Then the Prophet (pbuh) felt warm tears coming down his face. He woke up and saw that Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra) was crying, so he asked him why? He said a snake bit his left leg, so naturally tears came out, but he didn’t want to disturb the Prophet (pbuh). So the Prophet (pbuh) did ruqya for him – you will never find a more pure love than what is between the Prophet (pbuh) and Abu Bakr As Siddique (ra), subhan Allah.
§ Loving each other for the sake of Allah (swt) bears the fruit of paradise, but we have to understand this.
What is the meaning of brotherhood in Islam?
§ To have a deep belief in Allah (swt), and to love what Allah (swt) loves and to hate what Allah (swt) hates. Your desire does not lead you, it is the love of Allah (swt) that leads you à this is a major condition when you say you love for the sake of Allah (swt). It is easy to say I love you for the sake of Allah, but it means that Allah (swt) is above everything. It means that I will not prefer anything above Allah (swt), no matter how close it may be – be it my parents, children, spouse, business, house, etc.
§ A companion went to go buy a horse, and the man told him I will sell it to you for 5 dinar, he said no, I will give you 6, he was surprised, but he said ok. And he said no I will give you 7,8,9.. until he reached 12. So he bought it for 12 dinar. The people asked him he was going to sell it to you for 5 dinars and you offered 12, why? He said because the true value of that horse is 12 dinars and I want to treat my brother the same way I would want to be treated. And nowadays, we fight for even half a dirham to bring down the price, especially with those who are more needy than us, subhan Allah. And if we go to a trendy café, we are willing to pay triple the price because it is prestige, subhan Allah.
Brotherhood / sisterhood for Allah (swt) (الأخوة في الله)
§ People say to each other, ‘I love you for the sake of Allah’ – but they are not sincere. To say this is very deep, and there are conditions to it.
§ Sa’ad ibn Ma’adth (ra) was a caller to Islam, and people were following him, and this young man comes to him and he says, I swear that I love you for the sake of Allah (swt). Sa’ad (ra) said, only for Allah? And he said this to him for three times. Then Sa’ad (ra) told him that the Prophet (pbuh) said then it is guaranteed from Allah (swt) that He loves you. Meaning you meet this person only for the sake of Allah (swt), and when you meet them, it increases your faith in Allah (swt). You meet each other because you love to remember Allah (swt) together, subhan Allah.
§ Brotherhood / sisterhood in Islam is not something you can buy with money, it is not measured tangibly.
§ It is only in Allah’s hand to put the love in the people’s hearts. Of course not everyone will love you, but those who are like you, will love you. Believers love believers, hypocrites loves hypocrites, etc.
§ Brothers and sisters for Islam are productive, they want to help other, support each other – they help each other to the obedience and worship of Allah (swt). Surah Al Maeda 2: (وَتَعَاوَنُواْ عَلَى ٱلۡبِرِّ وَٱلتَّقۡوَىٰۖ وَلَا تَعَاوَنُواْ عَلَى ٱلۡإِثۡمِ وَٱلۡعُدۡوَٲنِۚ) (Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression)
§ They will keep each other away from anything that is evil or will harm others. They want for others what they want for themselves – no greed, pride, jealousy. There are people who are together because of money, passing time, etc. But those who love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) lift each other up to the love of Allah (swt), and push each other way from what is evil.
Ayat in the Quran about Brotherhood / sisterhood for Allah (swt) (الأخوة في الله)
§ Surah Al Imran 103: (وَٱعۡتَصِمُواْ بِحَبۡلِ ٱللَّهِ جَمِيعً۬ا وَلَا تَفَرَّقُواْۚ وَٱذۡكُرُواْ نِعۡمَتَ ٱللَّهِ عَلَيۡكُمۡ إِذۡ كُنتُمۡ أَعۡدَآءً۬ فَأَلَّفَ بَيۡنَ قُلُوبِكُمۡ فَأَصۡبَحۡتُم بِنِعۡمَتِهِۦۤ إِخۡوَٲنً۬ا وَكُنتُمۡ عَلَىٰ شَفَا حُفۡرَةٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلنَّارِ فَأَنقَذَكُم مِّنۡہَاۗ كَذَٲلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمۡ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَہۡتَدُونَ) (And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allâh (i.e. this Qur'ân), and be not divided among yourselves[], and remember Allâh's Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His Grace, you became brethren (in Islâmic Faith), and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allâh makes His Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear to you, that you may be guided)
§ Allah (swt) loves unity – there is congregation prayer, etc. Remember that you were once enemies, and it is Allah (swt) that put the love in your hearts for each other. That is why you should ask Allah (swt) to put the love of what He loves in your heart.
§ Surah Al Anfal 63: (وَأَلَّفَ بَيۡنَ قُلُوبِہِمۡۚ لَوۡ أَنفَقۡتَ مَا فِى ٱلۡأَرۡضِ جَمِيعً۬ا مَّآ أَلَّفۡتَ بَيۡنَ قُلُوبِهِمۡ وَلَـٰڪِنَّ ٱللَّهَ أَلَّفَ بَيۡنَہُمۡۚ إِنَّهُ ۥ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ۬) (And He has united their (i.e. believers') hearts. If you had spent all that is in the earth, you could not have united their hearts, but Allâh has united them. Certainly He is All-Mighty, All-Wise)
§ Who made us to love each other? It is Allah (swt). Nobody can change the hearts except Allah (swt), the hearts are between the two fingers of Allah (swt) in a manner that suits His majesty, turning them as He wants.
§ Allah (swt) is able to do this with His might and wisdom.
§ Surah Al Hujurat 10: (إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَ أَخَوَيۡكُمۡۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُرۡحَمُونَ) (The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islâmic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allâh, that you may receive mercy.)
§ Ask Allah (swt) to make you of the pious and of those who unite the people’s hearts (الصالحين و المصلحين), subhan Allah.
§ Surah Al Mujadila 22: (لَّا تَجِدُ قَوۡمً۬ا يُؤۡمِنُونَ بِٱللَّهِ وَٱلۡيَوۡمِ ٱلۡأَخِرِ يُوَآدُّونَ مَنۡ حَآدَّ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۥ وَلَوۡ ڪَانُوٓاْ ءَابَآءَهُمۡ أَوۡ أَبۡنَآءَهُمۡ أَوۡ إِخۡوَٲنَهُمۡ أَوۡ عَشِيرَتَہُمۡۚ) (You (O Muhammad SAW) will not find any people who believe in Allâh and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad SAW), even though they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred (people).)
§ You might have surface friends, but close / heart friends, are not the ones that hate Allah (swt) and His messenger (pbuh).
§ Surah Al Hashr 10: (رَبَّنَا ٱغۡفِرۡ لَنَا وَلِإِخۡوَٲنِنَا ٱلَّذِينَ سَبَقُونَا بِٱلۡإِيمَـٰنِ وَلَا تَجۡعَلۡ فِى قُلُوبِنَا غِلاًّ۬ لِّلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ رَبَّنَآ إِنَّكَ رَءُوفٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ) ("Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who have preceded us in Faith, and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed. Our Lord! You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful.)
§ If you have something in your heart against someone who is pious, or you are upset with someone whom you know is pious, then make this dua’a.
The Muslim is the brother of the Muslim
§ It is not greatness that you have a thousand friends in a year, but to have one good friend for a thousand years, it is about quality, not quantity.
§ On the Day of Judgement, people will enter paradise, and they will remember the friends they used to be with – they will say, we used to pray with them, attend study circles with them, etc, and they will ask, where are they? They will be in the hellfire, but those who have one grain of faith, then Allah (swt) will allow them to be taken out, subhan Allah.
§ Imam Ash Shafi’ee said I love the pious, but I am not one of them. And I hope that my love for them will grant me to have their intercession from them. Look at how humble he is. People do little now and think they have reached firdaous, and they have done so much, and still they are very humble, this is why Allah (swt) has raised them, subhan Allah.
§ The Prophet (pbuh) said there are friends that are like fire, they will make you dirty and smudged with smoke, and there are friends like light, they will make your faults clear to you, subhan Allah.
§ A good companion is better than being alone, Musa (as) asked to be with his brother, in order to remember Allah (swt) a lot. And being alone is better than being with a bad companion. If you know that being in a gathering will affect your faith negatively, then best to avoid it.
Rights of the Muslim
§ There are some rights that each Muslim has towards the other Muslim.
§ Say salam to each other when meeting them
§ Visit them if sick
§ If they sneeze, you must reply back – if no one says anything, then everyone is in wrong.
§ To visit each other
§ Give gifts to each other
§ Wish each other in eids
May Allah (swt) gather our hearts together in the duniya and akhira. Amee
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Four Relationships that lead to True Happiness (العلائق الاربعة لتحقيق السعادة)
1. To have a happy life means we need to have the right relationship with Allah (swt). Imagine if you enter this life without ever knowing your mother, you would feel empty. Now imagine entering this life without ever knowing your Creator, your Rabb, subhan Allah.
2. Improve your relation with your self – you need to build your self, personality, and aim in life – why Allah (swt) has created you – in order to worship Him.
3. Your relationship with the people – you cannot cut yourself off from the people. Allah (swt) created us as social beings, we are first connected to our parents, siblings, friends, spouses, children, neighbors, society – so you have to live with people. The most successful people are the ones who have good relationships with those nearest to them and then furthest, subhan Allah.
4. Relationship in the duniya – your deeds and actions are here which will determine your hereafter.
What is the meaning of love?
§ (حب) à (ح) (روح) / (ب) (بدن)
§ Your soul and body should be satisfied, all other loves should fall under the shade of the love of Allah (swt) – then your heart will be in peace.
§ Allah (swt) gave us everything in this life to serve us – Allah (swt) even made the angels to prostrate to Adam (as).
§ The heart will never be satisfied unless it knows its Creator and is attached to it, subhan Allah.
§ Love of Allah (swt) is:
§ Sweetness
§ Cure
§ Light
§ Life – the heart is dead until the love of Allah (swt) enters it, subhan Allah.
§ Coolness of the eyes
§ Identity – your life will be based on things that Allah (swt) loves
§ Power for the heart
§ Food for the soul
§ True love
§ Most beautiful competition you can have in life – to compete for the love of Allah (swt)
Beneficial love
§ Love of Allah (swt) – you will never lose if you have this love
§ Loving anything for the sake of Allah (swt) – loving the places that Allah (swt) loves, loving the people, creatures that Allah (swt) loves – like messengers and angels.
§ Loving the obedience that Allah (swt) loves, loving the friends that push you towards good and keep you away from haram.
Harmful love
§ To love with Allah (swt) – to take partners with Allah (swt), whether idols or humans. Sometimes you say you love so and so for the sake of Allah (swt), but it is not, it is for your nafs that commands to evil. Anything that mixes or comes above the love of Allah (swt) is dangerous.
§ To love what Allah (swt) doesn’t love, for example certain characteristics of people, arrogance, etc.
§ To go to places or be with people that Allah (swt) doesn’t love.
Life has taught me that people are three types
1. People are like air: you can’t live without them, just as you need air to breathe.
2. People are like medicine: when you are sick, you go to them and call them.
3. People are like a disease: you don’t want them in your life, subhan Allah. They are like a headache, every time they come you feel sick.
§ Sometimes one person can be all three, subhan Allah.
True love
§ The true love is what is purely for the sake of Allah (swt), nothing else in between.
§ Those who love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) are under the shade of Allah (swt).
§ On the Day of Judgement, Some will perspire to their knees, some to their stomachs, some to their chests, and some will drown in their perspiration. May Allah (swt) grant us His shade. Ameen.
§ Sometimes we say we love a person so much for the sake of Allah (swt), but we have to be very cautious because you don’t want the kind of love where you are unhappy all the time - you are crying when you separate from them, you are crying before even meeting them, etc – this is not a correct kind of love.
§ Surah Al Hujurat 10: (إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَ أَخَوَيۡكُمۡۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُرۡحَمُونَ) (The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islâmic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allâh, that you may receive mercy.)
§ Brotherhood / sisterhood in Islam is not measured by how tall the ‘tree’ may be, but how deep are the roots, subhan Allah. All of the boundaries fall and it is just the faith that bonds them – the boundary of nationality, culture, color, etc all fall, subhan Allah.
§ It is natural to want love, this gives us satisfaction. Those who are lacking this love, they are unstable in some are in their life, subhan Allah. For example if they didn’t get the love of their parents, or were surrounded by bad friends – then there is some sort of instability in their life.
§ The love of Allah (swt) is the most stable and it will hold you all the way throughout life, and this love just becomes more beautiful, subhan Allah.
§ You need people to support you and take you towards the truth – Eisa (as) had the disciples, and Mohammed (pbuh) had the companions.
§ On the Day of Judement, all hearts will be separated, except those who loved for the sake of Allah (swt) – and their appointment is not just in the duniya, but in the hereafter as well, subhan Allah.
§ When we help each other for the sake of Allah (swt), it is as if you are fasting the whole day and praying the whole night. It is so simple to gain this reward and how quickly we turn away from it, subhan Allah. For example, your neighbor might come and tell you she has a gathering and needs to get something, and asks you if you can take her. This journey of yours of taking her back and forth is a worship, subhan Allah.
§ Hadith: (وعن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "المسلم أخو المسلم لا يظلمه ولا يسلمه. من كان في حاجة أخيه كان الله في حاجته، ومن فرج عن مسلم كربة فرج الله عنه بها كربة من كرب يوم القيامة، ومن ستر مسلمًا ستره الله يوم القيامة" ((متفق عليه))) (Ibn 'Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "A Muslim is a brother of (another) Muslim, he neither wrongs him nor does hand him over to one who does him wrong. If anyone fulfills his brother's needs, Allah will fulfill his needs; if one relieves a Muslim of his troubles, Allah will relieve his troubles on the Day of Resurrection; and if anyone covers up a Muslim (his sins), Allah will cover him up (his sins) on the Resurrection Day".) – Al Bukhari and Muslim - Book 1, Hadith 244.
§ The one who has too much debt, can’t continue their education, their husband died – help them in this calamity, and Allah (swt) will help you on the Day of Judgment when no money or children can help you. You might fight difficulties on the Day of Judgment and then see it being lifted, why you might wonder? Allah (swt) will tell you because you helped so and so in the duniya.
§ You don’t know which deed of yours you did and had forgotten this deed, and it might be the one that saves you and makes you enter paradise, subhan Allah. And the deeds you think are the ones that will save you, might have very little weight, subhan Allah.
§ The one who fears Allah (swt) will conceal the secrets of others, why? Because he knows he would not like to have his secrets exposed to others.
§ A Bedouin came up to the Prophet (pbuh) and asked him when is the Day of Judgement, so the Prophet (pbuh) asked him what have you prepared for it? The Bedouin said not much, but I love of Allah (swt) and you. Then the Prophet (pbuh) said you are with the ones whom you love.
§ So the ones whom you love in the duniya, you will be with them in the akhira – so love the right people. Remember (أنعمت عليهم) in Surah Al Fatiha – they are on the Straight Path – they are the messengers, truthful ones, martyrs, and righteous.
§ Those who enter paradise, but do not find the friends they used to be with in the duniya, will say they used to fast and pray with us. Then Allah (swt) will give them permission to allow them to take them out of the hellfire if they had one atom of belief, subhan Allah.
§ Omar bin Khattab (ra) said always take truthful brothers and sisters. They have manners, purity, and love that increases every time for His sake.
جزاك الله خيرا
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